The debate surrounding “gay marriage” always takes me back to the same premise: there is no such thing as “gay” marriage, and there can never be such a thing because to make it so would require the alteration of objective reality.
I’m not exactly a libertarian when it comes to personal, sexual conduct. But I understand that the world is a kinky place and so I prefer to live and let live–just do your thing privately and don’t try to find acceptance for your kinky behaviors by pretending that there are no moral standards, no consequences to your behaviors, and no objective reality that indicates your behaviors are incompatible with lasting human happiness.
Put another way; I really don’t care who you live with, who you love, or with whom you set up housekeeping. Just don’t try to use convolutions of language and the influence of law as a bludgeon to pulverize the objective reality that marriage is, by definition, the union of a man and a woman.
Those who advocate “gay” marriage use PC rhetoric to make the concept more palatable to the ordinary folk. “Civil unions,” “social compacts,” “personal contracts,” are all euphemisms designed to misdirect the hearer from the fact that they are attempting to deconstruct the foundations of the human family. It is no small thing when you consider that to dissolve the definition of marriage as the union of one man and one woman is to ignore thousands of years of human interactions which have been the laboratory where traditional marriage has proven to be the most healthy and efficacious model for social well-being and the perpetuation of the species. These truths are immutable. This is reality. So when the “gay marriage” debate pops up, I always have to remind my disputants that when you fight reality, reality always wins!
“All thinking is a process of identification and integration. Man perceives a blob of color; by integrating the evidence of his sight and his touch, he learns to identify it as a solid object; he learns to identify the object as a table; he learns that the table is made of wood; he learns that the wood consists of cells, that the cells consist of molecules, that the molecules consist of atoms. All through this process, the work of his mind consists of answers to a single question: What is it? His means to establish the truth of his answers is logic, and logic rests on the axiom that existence exists. Logic is the art of non-contradictory identification. A contradiction cannot exist. An atom is itself, and so is the universe; neither can contradict its own identity; nor can a part contradict the whole. No concept man forms is valid unless he integrates it without contradiction into the total sum of his knowledge. To arrive at a contradiction is to confess an error in one’s thinking; to maintain a contradiction is to abdicate one’s mind and to evict oneself from the realm of reality.”
“Gay marriage” is a contradiction. The word “gay” indicates sexual interactions between two people of the same sex. Marriage is defined as the axial social institution where a man and a woman unite within the terms of a mutually agreed-upon contract, recognized by the state and by God, as solemn and permanent. This union is designed for the procreation of children, the establishment of a cohesive social relationship which is both complimentary and mutually beneficial, and which is considered the crowning jewel of human desire and romantic love. “Gay” and marriage are contradictory in thought and function. Gay love is not gay marriage. Gay affection is not gay marriage. Gay commitment is not gay marriage, and there no measure of stretching the language or beating the law into submission that will make a contradiction a reality.
What is reality?
by Marjorie Haun 8-8-2012